Razors pain you;
rivers are damp;
acids stain you;
and drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful;
rope nooses give;
gas smells awful;
you might as well live.
After that insightful piece of advice, i would want to move on to the
story of a young man who started off his career by selling newspapers
in trains. He got so sick of life, he bought seventy five sleeping
pills and laid them out neatly on a newspaper in his own bedroom.
Spotted by his father, he answered pretty much to the point.
“I want to die”, he told his father.
After a long walk that followed, his father told him to carry on with
his plans, it was his life after all. But, he also asked him to wonder
if the pages of the book that his life was, seemed worthy of reading
“Turn the pages once” he told his son. ” and see what lies ahead.”
The boy went ahead and became Sidney Sheldon, who died later, at a
ripe age in 2007.
I guess that piece of information wouldn’t do much good either, for a
person who has decided they want to die anyway. So, i suggest you hear
me out before you take that step. Or, if you happen to know someone
who’s about to “pull the hook”, here’s what you can do about it:
It’s very important to understand the psychodynamics of suicide before
attempting to deal with it. The alarming rate of increase in the
number of suicidal attempts over the past few years, propels us to
give it some thought.
The psychodynamic meaning of suicide for a patient derives from both
affective and cognitive components. Rage, hopelessness, despair, and
guilt are important affective states in which young patients commit
suicide. The meanings of suicide can be usefully organized around the
conscious (cognitive) and unconscious meanings given to death by the
suicidal patient: death as reunion, death as rebirth, death as
retaliatory abandonment, death as revenge, and death as
self-punishment or atonement.
So, when exactly does a person feel that he/she shouldn’t live any more?
Believe it or not, most suicidal motives are backed by a guilty
conscience. The inability of performance, loss of financial backing, a sense of wrongdoing, these are just some phrases that encircle a person and tell them to jump off the nearest rooftop.
Other than that, mostly, people tend to kill themselves over
depressive conditions, namely, the loss of a loved one, the angst of
having failed consistently, or in some occasions, extreme cases of
inferiority complex, (being obese, being too short) , and in really
bizarre cases, withdrawal symptoms from addictive narcotics. While
none of the above is potentially endearing, it’s all true. This is
what drives today’s youth towards a remarkably shameful step.
To stop a person from jumping off the roof, we need to know why
exactly why he climbed up the stairs in the first place. The disease
of society, a term coined by many intellectuals a certain amount of
time ago, refers to the burden that society exerts over any person who
fails to live by social standards. A boy who has not been able to
clear IIT-JEE kills himself, only because he feels that IIT truly is
the end of life. Time, as he knows it, starts from the time he gets an
IIT degree. Going deeper into this, let’s try and understand what
moulded his thinking into this shape.
1. His parents gave him the idea that IIT was the one place where
dreams converge with reality. Now in reality, that was his parents’
dream; not his. So it didn’t “converge”.
2. He grew up in an environment where getting into IIT was the “only”
possibility. No other mode of survival existed for him.
3. He was led to believe that he would not be considered human(read:
sane,normal, the usual jargon) unless he cleared the JEE.
Finally, with all the pressure, he failed to perform. And then he
found the noose as an “easy escape” from this big bad society. We
shall go into detail about the easy escape theory a bit later. Right
now, I would want to elaborate on the psyche of suicide attempters, a
Whenever a survey regarding suicide motives is conducted, we get to
read varying reasons for people wanting to end their lives.
The responsive attitude clearly reflects the degree of modernization
of our youth. Therefore it may be prudently deducted, that with the
passage from segmented or hierarchically stratified to functionally
differentiated societies, a process that usually entails the loss of
leadership of religion as a guiding system of values, tolerance and an
affirmative tendency towards individual motives of suicide tend to
increase. The de-stigmatization of suicide has since progressed very
far in our country. The altitude, that one has the right to terminate
one’s life is in turn a necessary precondition, that personal suicide
ideas or fantasies do not have to be principally repulsed and that
single suicide motives can acquire high degrees of acceptance.
That, unfortunately, is not a good sign as far as we, the so called
“controllers” and “responsible people” are concerned.
People find it hard to believe that they have not been given the right
to control their lives. The sad fact is, that motivational fiction is
often misunderstood. Popular authors have written material that sadly
encourage our misled youngsters into believing that suicide is the
“only way out”.
The highly acclaimed “Prison Diaries” by Jeffery Archer demonstrate
his contemplation of suicide back in his prison days. People who
identify with him and go ahead with their plans to kill themselves,
overlook the fact that such material inevitably ends in inspirational
thoughts, and that Jeffery Archer is still very much alive. Suicidal
Patients have gone as far as using Shakespeare’s Great work of
literature “Hamlet” to justify their action of cowardice.
Now, for the ‘easy-way-out’ concept. Youngsters who give in to their
despair often regard it too much effort to try and wriggle themselves
out of the situtation that they themselves develop. Most often, it has
been found, that the victim of suicidal tendencies arguably had
favourable chances of surviving their ordeal and “working it out”. But
they choose not to. They tend to show the world how brave they are, by
killing themselves, often in an attempt to showcase that they are
invaluable to the people around them. What follows their death
certainly revolves around that phenomenon for a little time, but that
wears out sooner or later. Pretty soon, people start condemning the
victim’s family for forcing them to take the last step.
A not-so-distant-into-the-past example is that of Mr Rizwanur Rehman,
the late husband of Priyanka Todi, heiress to the Lux Empire. A very
hyped-up issue that got covered-up atequally fast pace, it was the
tale of an unhappy father-in-law who coaxed his daughter’s husband
into commiting suicide on the railway tracks.
Such kind of behaviour, instead of being discouraged or punished, is
often hailed as a sense of “duty” of a father towards his daughter’s
well being, or a citizen’s duty towards the elite society.
Another horrifying example of suicide in which a pregnant teenager
hung herself from the ceiling fan demonstrates how parents, instead of
helping out their troubled kids in dealing with their troubles, find
it easier to blame everything on the generation and push them to the
brink of death.
Suicide is not a new phenomenon, and like all known diseases, it comes
with it’s share of doctors and medicine. But yet again, the amount of
amateur experiments on depression is too high, and this results to
cases of Prozac abusing, in which a young victim solicits an overdose
of Anti-depressants from the local chemist’s shop and then ends up
mentally impaired, or worse, dead.
The question that haunts many young minds, is , “Should I go see a
doctor now? Is it too early? Are my symptoms too feeble to consider?”
So, Who really needs a doctor?
The answer to that is, anybody who needs a doctor more than a layman,
needs to check out with a psychoanalyst. Suicide is potentially fatal,
and it’s symptoms should never be ignored.
If you happen to know someone who might just step off the edge, make
sure you inform the right authority about their condition.
Because, in the end, life is never overrated.